There is a huge fucking difference between individual sexism/racism and INSTITUTIONAL sexism/racism. An individual woman can be sexist against men. An individual POC can be racist against white people. There is no INSTITUTIONAL sexism or racism against men or white people in the United States,…
I’ve begun silently fighting back against jerks on the subway who sit as spread out as possible. Basically I match your stance.
This guy was sitting on the train with his knees splayed and his hands on the seat to either side of him. So I slowly backed up into the seat next to him forcing him to either move his hand or have me sit on it. Then I spread my knees equally wide and stuck my elbows out just as far.
It’s amazing how uncomfortable this makes men.
Eventually he closed his knees more (so I closed mine.) The ladies across from me noticed this silent warfare and were slightly confused. When he finally got off the train and I sat like a “lady” they realized what I did and grinned at me.
Yep. This is my new thing to do on the subway.
ur a little rebel i like u
You know why most guys sit like that?
It’s a body language signal known as a “crotch display” and it’s used to show dominance/confidence.
This is why guys get uncomfortable when women do this, and also why women are told to sit “like a lady” - basically, without the crotch display. When women do it, they’re telling all the dudes that they’re either stronger or on equal standing with them.
So I say right on, ladies! Go for it.
WE DO NOT SIT WITH OUT LEGS SPREAD BECAUSE WE WANT TO ‘SEXUALLY DOMINATE THE SCENE’ OR WHATEVER BULLCRAP YOU WANT TO COME UP WITH.
WE SIT LIKE THAT BECAUSE WE HAVE TESTICLES IN THE MIDDLE THAT ARE FUCKING SENSITIVE TO HEAT AND PRESSURE, MAKING IT MORE COMFORTABLE TO SPREAD OUR LEGS.
WE CLOSE OURS WHEN YOU ‘IMITATE’ US BECAUSE WE REALISE YOU WANT MORE SPACE AND SO WE BE POLITE AND GIVE IT TO YOU
WE SIT LIKE THIS ANYWHERE
HOW ARE WE OPRESSING YOU WHEN WE SIT LIKE THIS ON OUR OWN, IN PRIVATE?
NOT EVERYTHING IS THE GODDAMN PATRIARCHY
WHOA DUDE YELLING IN ALL CAPS DOESN’T CHANGE THE FACT THAT YOU ARE IN A GODDAMN PUBLIC SPACE AND MOST LADIES FEEL HECKA UNCOMFORTABLE ACTUALLY SPREADING THEIR LEGS LIKE THAT BECAUSE THEY’RE OFTEN TOLD BY OTHER PEOPLE TO “SIT LADY LIKE”. I’VE BEEN TOLD MULTIPLE TIMES THAT I SHOULDN’T IMITATE THE WAY GUYS SIT. IT ACTUALLY IS A HUGE ISSUE BECAUSE GUYS ARE LITERALLY ACTING ENTITLED TO BE IN YOUR SPACE ON THE BUS. DO YOU KNOW HOW FUCKING RUDE THAT IS? DO YOU KNOW HOW GODDAMN RUDE IT IS TO INVADE SOMEONE’S SPACE? OF COURSE THEY’RE FUCKING UNCOMFORTABLE, YOU’RE IN THEIR SPACE. AND NOT ALL LADIES WILL DO THAT!!! AND PS: TRANS LADIES DON’T PULL THIS SHIT EITHER DON’T GET ALL HIGH AND MIGHTY WITH YOUR “OH MY BALLS FEEL WEIRD”.
SUCK IT THE FUCK UP. MY VAGINA FEELS WEIRD WHEN IT’S HEATED UP YOU DON’T SEE ME FORCING MY LEGS ONTO SOMEONE ELSE IN A GODDAMN PUBLIC SPACE. WHEN YOU INVADE SOMEONE’S SPACE, YEAH, THEY SEE IT AS YOU BEING FUCKING ENTITLED.
BECAUSE ONLY AN ENTITLED JACKASS SITS LIKE THAT ON A GODDAMN BUS. I’VE ACTUALLY MOVED AND GIVEN MY SPACE UP ON A BUS BECAUSE OF A GUY PUTTING HIS LEGS ALL IN MY BUSINESS. IF YOU CAN’T FUCKING TELL THAT YOUR LEGS ARE ACTUALLY NOT SUPPOSED TO BE NEXT TO ME, THEN YEAH, YOU’RE AN ASS AND I DO NOT LIKE YOU. PUBLIC SPACES MEAN YOU HAVE TO SACRIFICE COMFORT TO AVOID GETTING IN SOMEONE ELSE’S PERSONAL SPACE. BELIEVE IT OR NOT, I DO NOT GIVE A DAMN THAT YOU FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE SITTING “LADY LIKE”. THERE ARE GUYS WHO DO IT TO DISPLAY THEIR DOMINANCE AS WELL. JUST BECAUSE YOU DON’T, DOESN’T MEAN THERE AREN’T GUYS WHO PULL THIS SHIT TO GO “HEY LOOK IM IN CHARGE LOOK HOW FUCKING TINY MY DAMN DICK IS”.
YOU ARE NOT ENTITLED TO MY SPACE, EVER. NOT EVEN IF YOU’RE UNCOMFORTABLE.
And for the record, I’m guessing the male above who argues that testicles don’t like being trapped under their legs has never actually tried sitting with their legs closed because let me tell you a thing I am a male and I always sit with my legs crossed and it fucking feels fabulous
has anyone ever tried like… politely asking the dude to move over a bit rather then making a federal case out of it? if i’m sitting on a bus or a train or whatever and someone just sits down next to me or asks if i can scootch over a bit i’ll absolutely do it. chances are most other guys will too.
at least in canada anyways.
and i just felt the need to express my opinions on it.
all in all it was… good… but i was a little bit disappointed, two major factors really, the first being the “war” doctor. Now don’t get me wrong he was a great actor and it was still a good show, but the introduction of a “missed” doctor just rubs me the wrong way a little bit, perhaps i simply liked the idea of Nine being the soldier who battled in the time war, or perhaps it’s partly the fact that “nine” “Ten” and “Eleven” are now “Ten” “Eleven” and “Twelve”, no more “David TENnant” jokes i suppose. another is that while at the end you can see him regenerating into nine, you don’t actually see him turn into nine. maybe i just wanted to see Christopher Eccleston in this movie.
Which brings me to my second disappointment about it… only three doctors. Yes there were those two bits with all thirteen, but you only got very small glimpses of them, and most of them were just stock footage. Perhaps i simply had my hopes too high, but i would have liked to see more of the doctors pick up their old roles once more, or if not have separate actors stand in for them.
Also i get the feeling i missed out on a lot as i was not caught up on doctor up to that point, the latest episode i was able to watch being the one with the cybermen on the moon with those two children.
Other then that though the episode was amazing and i love it.
This is a conversation I had with enenkaydoodles, a.k.a.Taylor, after her livestream comic had a cissexist term. I was surprised and upset by the comic, but only mildly at first, since it seemed to be a reasonable (also tiringly common) mistake. Because I didn’t think this would become an issue, I decided to pursue the matter because I thought this problem could be dealt with quickly.
I spoke with her thinking that she would be sweet and understanding, since she always appeared to be so on her blog. However, what actually occurred was Taylor acting incredibly entitled and deciding to use her privilege in order to get me cornered, seemingly aware about how uncomfortable this conversation was making me, as demonstrated by my short asks and her page-long responses that devolved into defensive speech rather quickly. She refused to accept that she said or did anything wrong, her “apology” was half-hearted at best and she acted very patronizing throughout the conversation, as though she knew better than me, and because I was the only one that spoke up that I was the one in the wrong. I never felt comfortable or treated fairly during this conversation; it was very much centered toward Taylor’s own personal feelings about a serious issue I presented to her. It felt rather one-sided, like she wasn’t listening at all to my concerns and was more distracted with sounding as “neutral” as possible while still asserting her privilege over me.
She made it clear she did not (read: refused) to understand what I was telling her. She shocked me by basically demanding I take responsibility for her fallacy, telling me that it was my fault whether or not she would take blame if I refused to educate her. She almost started to rant, based on the length of her reply, that it was up to me whether she became less narrow-minded and cissexist and that if I refused to give her every single possible resource to back up my reason for being offended, she wouldn’t accept it and could happily move on with her life without consequence, refusing to accept she ever did anything wrong.
I also sent this fanmail since she seemed to be unable to grasp what was upsetting me, or chose to be defensive and evasive instead of understanding. Although it is not and should never be my responsibility to educate someone — especially someone older than me who should already know better than to act in this manner — I did offer some reading material that I can only hope (although sincerely doubt) she read.
Since I apparently need to treat you like a child, as you’ve told me, here’s something my friend dealt with last night. Maybe it’ll shine a tiny light up there.
Just so you know!! Even though this is stressing me out I’m trying to show you because this is a very specific case, but expecting people like me to educate you instead of educating yourself is very lazy and cruel because you’re acting like it’s my responsibility to show you where you faulted instead of you trusting that my opinion means more than yours in this situation (and it does!) and apologizing and fixing the issue instead of making excuses! I’m trying my best to be civil but you need to understand my frustrations with this.
I’m very upset by this turn of events; I held respect for this person, and because she uploaded multiple comics related to depression and anxiety, you’d think she’d be more understanding towards triggers and speaking to people about upsetting material. Apparently her understanding of this stops at her own self, however.
Okay, see, that’s not what I’m getting from this exchange at all and I’m getting pretty tired of seeing exchanges like it. I told my friend I’m honestly scared to say anything here or intervene because of unpleasant kids like you—I’ve gotten harassment scaling up to ‘you should go die’ and ‘i would beat your face in if i could reach you’ from trans* kids on tumblr during various call-out snafus, and I’m not particularly eager to jump back into the fray. But now I’m pretty mad.
She didn’t understand where you were coming from. While there’s nothing wrong with communicating to a writer or artist that you’re uncomfortable with an aspect of their work, this was the first time a person had approached her with the objection you approached her with.
“She made it clear she did not (read: refused) to understand what I was telling her. ” Dude, your particular sense of wounded outrage does not speak to a higher and easily graspable platonic truth. You’re upset because of the way the world looks to you, which is a point of view that not everyone shares, or can share, or wants to share. This is not a matter of dragging a stubborn horse through its paces or making sure a kid learns their times’ tables. This is someone who treated you with respect, tried to explain their reasoning and intentions, and ask for more clarification into the problem, and now you’re saying they ‘decided to use their privilege’ and ‘almost ranted’ at you and ‘backed you into a corner’. As soon as they didn’t immediately do what you wanted you treated them like they were some kind of scheming psycho criminal who deliberately and knowingly savaged you and at the same time a petulant stupid child? Really?
Look, I guess this is tone policing, but if you show up, demand an artist change their work because they’re offended, tell them you’re offended because you have a really different definition of a phrase than they do, assert that you speak for an entire group and are getting increasingly upset at their noncompliance with your hivemind platonic-truth obviously-correct reality, then get more upset with them when they ask you to please help them even understand what the hell that reality is supposed to be, then when you do give them more information on where you’re coming from you call them a child, then make a big post on their blog talking about fucking betrayed you’ve been, this is maybe not a tone that is helping you like at all ever.
This is the kind of tone that makes people scared, and angry, and feel like shit, and cry about themselves all night and feel like monsters for being so unable to please someone so angry. So, yeah okay, artists and writers are cissexist, we’re sexist and classist and racist and heteronormative because that’s how the fucking world is set up to make us, that’s the base state we’re all starting from, but can you fucking please stop treating artists and writers like lightning rods for your discontent? Can you stop screaming personal fucking victimization when someone doesn’t instantly change into who you want them to be, or won’t say what you want them to say? I am just. Tired and scared. And sad. And I don’t think we’re getting anywhere if we treat each other like this.
Further, i hate to bring it up but Enekaydoodles is correct on the definition on male and female organs, their is a clear difference between gender and sex, and many people still seem to get those two confused, even the trans* people who defined the terms it seems.
Penises are male organs, they belong on creatures of the male sex, this is not up for debate, this is a biological fact. an individual with a penis may identify as female yes, however that would be their Gender and not their sex. Effectively they would be identifying as a woman, and for all intensive purpouses they would indeed be woman, however in biological terms, so long as they posess the Y chromosome and barring and biological mutaition, they would sexually, be a male. Yes, mutations may cause females to develop them, or even the creation of hermaphrodites, however those are still mutations and not the standard definition, i hardly believe calling an organ that for all intensive purposes, and for the past four billion years has been a male-exclusive organ, at least within our own species, a “man-part” would be anything other then the truth.
Perhaps it is merely the term “man” that is upsetting you, as it is related to the term “boy” which as Enekaydoodles pointed out earlier is not a sexual term, but a gender one. Would “male-part” be more fitting in this case?
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i still remember my half dark-troll shaman. Ahh i miss the guy.
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